Parents are often upset when their children praise（赞扬） the homes of their friends and regard（把…看作） it as a slur on their own cooking, or cleaning, or furniture, and often are foolish enough to let the adolescents（青少年） see that they are annoyed. They may even accuse（控告） them of disloyalty（不忠实）, or make some spiteful remark（评论） about the friends' parents. Such a loss of dignity（尊严） and descent（血统） into childish（孩子的） behavior on the part of the adults deeply shocks the adolescents（青少年）, and makes them resolve（解决） that in future they will not talk to their parents about the places or people they visit. Before very long, the parents will be complaining that the child is so secretive and never tells them anything, but they seldom（ 很少） realize that they have brought this on themselves. Disillusionment（ 幻灭） with the parents, however good and adequate（足够的） they may be both as parents and as individuals, is to some degree inevitable（必然的）.